Service to others is about offering something of your own that no one else could possibly give — your ideas, talents, qualities, skills, feelings, values and companionship! It’s about finding what is rare and unique in yourself that you would like to share with the world. There is a force in the Universe called the Law of Reciprocity, and the concept is simple: What goes around comes around. Nothing you ever do goes unnoticed by this living universe – either positive or negative.
Some of you might ask: Why would I give to others when no one is giving anything to me? For something to grow first we need to “plant the seed”, to take action – and only after we’ll be able to see the results, not the other way around. You may have encountered many obstacles throughout your life and might feel that you were left alone to struggle by yourself; in the same time, this could also be a sign that you need to pay attention a bit more to recognize even the smallest acts of kindness along the way, and be grateful for them.
Help can take many forms and it may not come the way you expect it – but it doesn’t mean that it’s not there. You may have had opportunities that you’ve turned down; or people that have come into your life that you’ve judged because they didn’t fit into your patterns and rejected them…and the list could go on.
Just think about a moment in your life when you’ve experienced hardship – how did you get out of it just by yourself? Are you sure that no one has offered you a helping hand? And when you finally managed to get through, wasn’t it because someone believed in what you had to offer? How grateful were you to that person?
Joy can be real only if people look on their life as a service, and have a definite object in life outside themselves and their personal happiness. ~ Leo Tolstoy
Most people want to be appreciated when they give and they seek some form of recognition for their kind gestures; however, this is a form of attachment to your giving and when you don’t get anything in return, it doesn’t feel good and you might stop doing it. This happens because your ego takes over.
On the other hand, your character is tied directly to how you treat others. Being of service means experiencing humanity at the highest level and it begins with empathy – that is, you forego judgment for understanding, you move beyond reacting and take action, you help finding answers instead of blaming.
People with great empathy are very good listeners, who are able to go beyond the spoken words and sense the feelings that the other person is experiencing. When we truly start to recognize, appreciate and be grateful for everything that happens in our life, we start to understand how things in this universe work.
Help others achieve their dreams and you will achieve yours. ~ Les Brown
The willingness to give has to come from your heart because you truly enjoy it, and not because of some ulterior motives. Giving without expectation is the ultimate form of love, because true love is unconditional. When you give unconditionally, you will experience abundance in all its forms.
Whenever you enter a relationship – personal or professional – do it by having in mind what you have to offer, and not based on what you can get out of it. This may sound a bit strange especially in business, but the more you seek taking from others without giving, the less you’ll have for yourself. If you genuinely want to be successful in any aspect of your life, don’t do the bare minimum, hoping that it’ll be enough. Do more than is expected of you and see what happens!
Altruism – the antonym of egoism – does not concern itself with reward, status, money, or power. It’s all about doing an act of kindness and helping others for the sole purpose of making them happy. Altruism can be learned – some people are born with it, others not so much. Even so, where there’s a will there’s a way – and those who are truly willing to change for the better will find a way to practice giving….the others will simply find excuses.
What will you choose?
Practicing the Law of Giving is actually very simple: if you want joy, give joy to others; if you want love, learn to give love; if you want attention and appreciation, learn to give attention and appreciation; if you want material affluence, help others to become materially affluent. ~ Deepak Chopra