Since I can remember it has fascinated me to understand why people do what they do and to find the reasons behind their actions. As a child I used to exasperate my mother with my “why” questions that went on and on until she no longer had answers for me – at which point she used to say: go ask your father! 🙂 We’re laughing about it now, but at the same time have realized that it was precisely that innate curiosity of mine that led me later on to seek permanent learning and be interested in personal development.
Little I was aware back then that all the information gathered throughout my childhood was going straight into my subconscious mind and would determine my values, principles, and actions later on in life. While most adults are aware that they have something called a subconscious mind, there are very few who know much more than that about it, let alone how to control it.
In fact, most people don’t even acknowledge that their subconscious mind is at play most of the time and that it’s about a million times more powerful than the conscious one. We operate 90 to 99 percent of our lives from subconscious programs – the so called paradigms that were formed during childhood through the information gathered from our parents and everyone else who was around us back then, when our conscious faculties haven’t been yet developed and thus, couldn’t reject anything.
All information acquired between the ages zero to six is automatically accepted to be true. The information is then evolved into beliefs, habits or mindsets held in our subconscious mind. When our conscious mind starts to develop, the thoughts that we think will be aligned with what was already formed as attitude or belief in our subconscious mind. If the new information is in conflict with the one that is already stored in the subconscious, our conscious mind will tend to block that information. This is why people seem to be difficult to change. Therefore, even though we may think that we’re controlling all of our actions and behavior, the truth is that our subconscious mind supersedes all conscious control.
Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and emotion will one day become a reality. ~ Earl Nightingale
Whenever we try to achieve anything through will and determination that are controlled by our conscious mind, but at the same time hold a contradictory belief deep into our subconscious mind, the latter will sabotage us and win. The good thing is that our subconscious mind can and will do everything that we tell it’s possible, it doesn’t have the power to reject anything. But first we need to make sure that our subconscious beliefs are supporting us.
I’d like to invite you to listen to Bob Proctor‘s advice below on changing paradigms. For many this can be life changing information by gaining a deeper understanding of how our mind operates, as well as why people do what they do.
Whenever a new idea comes to our mind, we have to ask ourselves: Will this idea improve my life, is it aligned with what I want? If the answer is “yes” then we definitely have to act on it. If we wish to improve our life but focus all the time on our current unfavorable circumstances, that’s exactly what we’ll continue to manifest, because what we focus on expands. Instead, we need to use our imagination and go beyond our present results, focusing on how we want our life to be, as if it has already happened.
Focus on where you want to go, not on what you fear. ~ Anthony Robbins
Our subconscious mind will act upon any instruction we give it. Any thought that is repeated over and over again will take an imprint within the subconscious, which cannot distinguish between what’s real and what’s imaginary. This is why visualization and autosuggestion can have such a powerful effect in attracting the results that we want.
Imagination is the ability to envision in our minds what we can’t see yet with our eyes. All things are created twice: there’s a mental creation (first), and a physical creation (second). Everything man-made that we see around today was once imagined. If we don’t make a conscious effort to visualize what we want in life and who we want to become, followed by taking action, then we empower other people and circumstances to shape us and our life, by default.
We are all self-made, but only the successful will admit it. ~ Earl Nightingale
Our mind thinks in pictures and through these practices we’re creating mental images, which later on the subconscious mind will act upon. But we need to believe that we’re capable of doing the things we wish for – if we can’t see ourselves having what we want, it’ll never happen. The best times to access our subconscious mind are the last 5-10 minutes before going to sleep, or upon rising in the morning, when we’re in a relaxed state.
Our conscious mind is the guardian of the subconscious. It’s the conscious mind’s role to make sure that only the thoughts that are aligned with our beliefs would gain entrance to the subconscious. When we fully understand that, we learn to recognize and change our paradigms – because whatever thoughts and beliefs gain entrance to the subconscious will eventually manifest in our life. Therefore, we must become very diligent in monitoring and directing our thoughts.
Most people will tell you to be practical and realistic about your goals – I know it because that’s what I keep hearing all the time. But that’s exactly how you should not be! If your goals don’t scare you, they are not big enough and you’re aiming too low. All successful people are dreamers; none of the great innovations that we see today would’ve been possible if those who created them would’ve been practical and realistic. We don’t have to know all the steps required to get what we want, just the first one – and take it. The rest of them will unfold as we confidently go towards what we desire.
If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours. ~ Henry David Thoreau